Overthinking and Anxiety: Quieting the Noise in a High-Functioning Mind
Do you find yourself second-guessing decisions, replaying conversations in your head, or constantly preparing for the worst? Overthinking isn’t just a mental habit—it’s a nervous system on high alert, often rooted in past experiences, perfectionism, or fear of failure.
You keep it together for everyone else, but your thoughts feel like a runaway train. If your mind’s always “on,” even when you’re exhausted, you’re in good company—and in the right place.
What Does Overthinking Really Feel Like?
Overthinking can show up as:
Mentally rehearsing conversations before they happen
Obsessing over what you should have said or done
Struggling to make “simple” decisions
Feeling guilty for relaxing or not being productive
Constantly scanning for what could go wrong
Even in moments of stillness, your mind might be moving at full speed—anticipating, fixing, preventing. It's exhausting.
“Your body is not a machine; it’s a garden. Overthinking is like flooding that garden with too much water—it drowns the roots instead of nourishing them.”
— Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score
Why Do We Overthink?
Overthinking isn’t a flaw—it’s usually a form of self-protection. It often begins in environments where unpredictability, criticism, or emotional neglect were common. You may have learned to stay “on guard” by staying in your head.
Some common roots include:
Childhood experiences where emotions weren’t safe or welcome
High expectations from family, school, or culture
A need to feel in control or avoid disapproval
Anxiety or trauma stored in the body
When your brain doesn’t feel safe, it tries to predict every outcome. The cost? Chronic stress, emotional burnout, and difficulty staying present.
“What if overthinking isn’t the problem — but the invitation to finally listen, slow down, and heal?”
The Hidden Struggles of High-Functioning Overthinkers
You’re the one everyone leans on. You’re thoughtful, capable, and you see what others miss. But no one sees what’s happening in your own mind.
Because while you’re holding it all together on the outside, inside it’s a different story:
You feel guilty when you rest — like you’re wasting time
You apologize for having needs, like they’re an inconvenience
You analyze every decision until you're paralyzed
You bend over backwards to avoid conflict, even when it costs you
Let’s be honest — you’re tired. Not just physically. Mentally. Emotionally. Soul-tired.
Overthinking isn’t just “too many thoughts.” It’s a survival strategy. A brilliant brain doing too much for too long. But that noise in your head? The pressure? The self-doubt?
It doesn’t have to stay like this.
You deserve peace that doesn’t come with guilt. Rest that doesn’t feel like failure. Space to just be — not always do.
This is your invitation to stop surviving in your mind and start living in your body.
Overthinking Isn’t Who You Are — It's How You Cope. Therapy Support in Hermosa Beach
You don’t need more advice, more strategies, or a better planner. What you need is a shift in how you relate to your thoughts—and to yourself.
In our work together, we’ll explore:
Where your overthinking patterns began (they make sense, even if they no longer serve you)
How your body holds anxiety and how to gently regulate your nervous system
Ways to develop a new relationship with control, uncertainty, and self-worth
Tools like EMDR to release stored emotional overwhelm that fuels the mental noise
My approach combines depth-oriented therapy with practical somatic tools. Whether you’re a professional, a parent, a creative—or all three—you deserve an inner life that’s as calm as the one you work hard to create on the outside.
You're Not Too Much. You're Just Tired of Holding It All.
Overthinking isn’t a sign you’re broken. It’s a signal that your system has been carrying too much for too long.
With the right support, it’s possible to:
Trust your decisions without second-guessing
Rest without guilt
Feel more present, less pressured
Finally exhale
You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
Try the 4-7-8 Breathing Technique to focus away from racing thoughts
The 4-7-8 breathing technique is a simple but powerful practice designed to calm your nervous system and reduce stress and overthinking. It involves:
Inhaling quietly through your nose for 4 seconds,
Holding your breath gently for 7 seconds,
Exhaling slowly and fully through your mouth for 8 seconds.
This pattern helps slow down your breathing, activates your body’s relaxation response, and shifts your focus away from racing thoughts. It’s especially helpful when you feel overwhelmed or trapped in a loop of overthinking.
Smart Doesn’t Mean Settled: Overthinking & High-Functioning Anxiety Support in Hermosa Beach
Even the most capable minds need space to rest.
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If you're ready to stop spiraling and start feeling more grounded, I’d love to support you.
Therapy for Overthinkers & Anxious Minds in Hermosa Beach, California — Laura Malandrino, APCC.
